Make Room for Change

Change is both needed and constant. Our bodies undergo change as cells are renewed. The composition of society changes as births and deaths occur. The weather changes and so do the seasons. People, businesses and economies change.

Change permeates the entire universe in one form or another.

If you are going to change something, do something new, it will have to displace something old. Any new initiative, habit or practice, any new article, structure or possession will displace some custom or thing that went before.

It is impossible for it to be “as well as”. Nature abhors vacuum.

If you are about to adopt a new behaviour it may replace a rest period, or mere idleness rather than a present activity or routine.

If you are about to acquire either an object or a building it may occupy a previously uncluttered space or an unused field rather than be a substitute for a current possession or an existing edifice.

Either way, something has to go. You have no empty corners, although there may be some non-productive ones.

This means you have to make room for change. That’s true whether the change is one you make on your own initiative, or one that stems from actions by some third party.

However, even when the trigger event is not of your making, the decision to make the resulting change is still yours. None of us can escape that responsibility, even though we may wish so at times.

Whatever the circumstances and whatever our wishes other people may not welcome the change. As Joni Mitchell wrote in her song Both Sides Now: “now old friends are acting strange, they shake their heads, they say I’ve changed”.

Also, it may not be possible, or advisable, to put boundaries around change. Change in area 1 may knock on to area 2. Sometimes this gets labelled as ‘unintended consequences’ or, more prosaically, as ‘collateral damage.’

Just as the responsibility for making the change is ours, so how others view the change is theirs. We cannot make that choice for them, nor accept either praise or blame for their feelings. For some people change is always a pig with a straw in his mouth.

It is a fact that we cannot ‘make’ people happy or sad, angry or unruffled. Each of us is accountable for how we decide to represent particular events to ourselves. “It is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.” ~ Shakespeare.

And as Joni Mitchell also recognises in her song it’s not necessarily all bad: “something’s lost, but something’s gained in living every day”.

On occasion resistance to change may be the right thing to do. Only you can judge, but if you call it wrong it may mean you get run over in the headlong flight to the future.

If you see the change in question as beneficial, or inevitable, then welcome it rather than joining the carpers and cavillers. Don’t live a midget existence. Helping to steer an otherwise wayward vessel may mean the eventual landfall will be a harbour more to your liking.