When learning doesn’t help

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It doesn’t matter much who you marry because they will turn out to be someone different anyway – or so they say. Business is just the same. Whatever you thought you were getting into will turn out to be something different in reality. And whatever your business is like today, next week, next month or next year it will have changed.

That’s life, but instead of successfully taking ourselves through it, we often sabotage ourselves by using three rules we learned at school. And these three false rules are at the heart of people feeling isolation, something I meet so often in clients.

The first rule is: there is only one right answer. This rule has everyone chasing the golden key that will unlock the secret of success. That the next book, course, or seminar will contain the Holy Grail and they will receive that great big tick of approval they have been seeking ever since attending nursery.

Unfortunately, in the power politics of the classroom, what is denied to virtually all pupils is the hypothetical nature of knowledge. Even 1+1=2 is an hypothesis and true only under certain conditions, as far as we know. The square root of 4 is either +2, or -2, or some other answer that we don’t know, but may exist.

The second rule is: focus on your weaknesses. Do you remember taking test and getting a mark of 18 out of 20? Pretty good! But what the teacher had you focus on was the two answers she thought you had wrong – not the eighteen answers you had correct. We can spend our whole lives looking in the wrong direction, trying to address minor faults instead of maximising our talents by doing even better the things we can already do well.

All those lives wasted and wrecked as a result cannot be counted. Imagine a Paula Radcliffe, or a Michael Johnson, or a Carl Lewis being told that, while they were quite good at running, they needed to address their weaknesses in the shot putt, or English composition, or historical dates. Would they have then developed into the outstanding athletes they subsequently became? Of course not! They would have been mediocre at whatever they did instead.

The third rule is: no cheating! Everyone must find the answer for themselves. The testing and examination regime placed constraints on leaning across to see what your neighbour had written on her answer paper. Inevitably, that has carried across into our working lives.
* Who has not worked extra, unpaid hours rather than ask colleagues to help?
* We have all sat through that awful, boring, stammered presentation by the HR Director when everyone knows that his deputy would have done it twice as well in half the time.
* And we men have all struggled to lift things that were really too heavy for us, but we refused to wimp-out and ask for a hand. Some of us have even injured our backs as a result.
*In business we sit in isolation, struggling with a situation beyond our immediate area of expertise, rather than pick up the phone and ask someone who knows.

So, day-by-day, week-by-week these well-learned axioms stand in our way, simply because we let them. Our parents, our teachers, our peers and our role models may have initially introduced us to these rules, but it is us that perpetuates them even though we are now fully grown and cognitive adults.

Yes, sometimes learning is over-rated.