Who else has bad habits?

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Every bad habit leads us away from what we want, but which are ‘bad’ and can we change them?

Where habits are concerned there are no absolutes. The same habit can be judged ‘good’ at one particular time and ‘bad’ at another. A cold shower in the morning can be seen as physically invigorating, but it would be of questionable benefit if you were suffering from pneumonia.

Fortunately, we are the ones that make certain actions routine simply by repeating them. That puts us in an ideal position to do something else consistently instead. Voilà, a new habit.

Who else would decide to wait?

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At Christmas 1914 soldiers from both sides climbed out of their trenches and played football in No Man’s Land. For just a brief time those engaged in killing each other realised that war was not what they wanted and that there was probably a better way.

This spontaneous act at a human level was somewhat frowned on by those in higher command and next day they all went back to a prolonged and bitter conflict.

On a personal level, with much less dire consequences, we repeat this self-destructive cycle. We realize that what we are doing is not yielding the results we want, we know there is a better way, we may even try it for a short while, but in the end we revert back to what we were doing previously, because that’s what’s expected and it doesn’t disrupt the pattern of received wisdom.

By 1918, four years later, the protagonists eventually got round a table and arrived at a settlement. The cost would have been much less four years earlier, whatever they may have agreed at that stage.

The simple lesson learnt at such cost to everyone is: if you need to change something, do it sooner rather than later; it will be so much better for all concerned.

What is everyone else doing?

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If you spend your time looking over the fence at your neighbour's garden do not be surprised if your own is full of weeds.

That is not the same as saying that your neighbour’s garden should be ignored. By all means take a look, see what lessons are to be learned and perhaps pick up new methods or fresh ideas.

However, if you spend all your time worrying about what the neighbours are up to, if you stand open-mouthed in awe at their goings-on, then your own backyard will – perforce – be ignored and your flowers, fruit and vegetables will wither for want of attention.

Voices in the void

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Many of us need the echoes of others to confirm our belief in ourselves. Perhaps it is this that lies behind the undeniable success of sites like Facebook and Twitter, the provision of feedback on blogs and the value ascribed to them.

That evokes even more admiration for those who plough the lonely furrow of an inner conviction, which society does not share, until they are eventually proved correct.

Are you a modern day Galileo?

How do you know?

Learning from our mistakes

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We spend needless time worrying about mistakes, mainly because we have been programmed during our formative years to concentrate on correcting our errors, rather than maximising our successes. What we have rarely been taught – but what we must quickly learn for ourselves in business – is that mistakes are the inevitable corollary of success. Unless we are making mistakes we are missing opportunities; we are not trying hard enough and we are forgoing huge, valuable and irreplaceable learning.